The following is by Jeremy Clarke – guest blogger. Very powerful words for anyone who finds themselves in any kind of relationship with another. Yes, that means everyone. They are words that we all need to ponder and apply. They relate very well to the discussion we had at our last Men’s Fraternity meeting. Remember? “Dead people don’t get offended.” Anyway. . .I thought I would share them with you.
Suppose that someone deeply wronged you……someone that you have grown to dislike over time…..someone you’ve managed to even develop some contempt for, perhaps (admittedly, I’ve been in such waters). The temptation is to approach such a relationship with the idea that we ought not put ourselves out to foster a relationship with that kind of person. Of course, the natural progression then is to not really care at all what that person thinks/says about us. In fact, it is just as well that he or she should keep their distance. After all, who needs the company? Let him or her go their way. The benefit of reconciling is not worth the investment of effort. The hurt is too deep; the wounds are still there.
But Only God would be just in responding to us this way. It only takes a moment to consider the innumerable offenses we haphazardly lay/laid at His feet everyday (willfully, mind you) to realize that God would be pristinely just to have let us go our way. After all…..does He need the company? Of course not. God would most certainly be just to say “Let enemies be enemies……Why should I lend any credence to their opinions of me.” Let ‘em go.”
But God does not deal with us in this way – does He? And doesn’t He also call those who have been graciously reconciled to Himself to “…be imitators of God” (Eph 5:1)? Interestingly enough, this command to “imitate Him” comes immediately after Eph 4:32: “And be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving one another, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you.” Isn’t the forgiveness offered to us by God the forgiveness implicit to divine reconciliation? This is the very epicenter [of what many people face daily in their marriages, their friendships, etc]. What grace it is that holy, pristine God should actually desire to reconcile us to Him! And lavishly at that…..not hesitantly – but with His whole heart; conveying to us the very life of His Son for that immense purpose. God is not willing that we should remain enemies. But rather, He is anxious to reconcile us to Himself, to such an extent that he dispatches ambassadors (like those from LBC on Sat night) beseeching men to be reconciled to Him.
This is why [unreconciled marriages and friendships] bring such reproach. It is the very antithesis of that which the Church represents. A Christian [husband/wife/friend] that is not absolutely anxious to reconcile him/herself to [another] – regardless of the offense – acts in a way that completely contradicts the character of Christ and the intended message of the church. They are persons acting immorally, of such a kind that is no different than any other offense that might be laid before Christ.
The issue before us seems rather clear: The individual(s) not moving toward reconciliation acts completely unbecoming of a Christian, and should be sternly admonished. There can be no advancement until accountability is leveraged in this sphere. If [someone] is unwilling to reconcile, then that person has elevated [their] offenses above God’s. And those are very dangerous waters. I realize that repentance must be actuated…perhaps more on [one] side than on [another]……but that does not invalidate the absolute requirement for immediate reconciliation.
We all have issues in our relationships that call for a response in light of these words. There isn’t a marriage or friendship that wouldn’t benefit from putting them into practice. And if you don’t need to now, you will in the future. Please prayerfully consider the truth. As difficult as it may be, it calls us to respond.
“So, as those who have been chosen of God, holy and beloved, put on a heart of compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience; (13) bearing with one another, and forgiving each other, whoever has a complaint against anyone; just as the Lord forgave you, so also should you. (14) Beyond all these things put on love, which is the perfect bond of unity. (15) Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, to which indeed you were called in one body; and be thankful. (16) Let the word of Christ richly dwell within you, with all wisdom teaching and admonishing one another with psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing with thankfulness in your hearts to God. (17) Whatever you do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks through Him to God the Father.” – Colossians 3:12-17
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Well, most churches this morning may resemble this picture. So, I’ve posted our order of worship and manuscript of the sermon for this week. I will post the audio as early this afternoon as I can. Enjoy your family worship in the comfort of your own home.
Does the name Simon Cowell ring a bell? Yes, he’s a judge on the popular TV show, American Idol. He’s become well-known for his severe criticism of the young contestants vying to become the next musical pop-star. But listen to what Simon has said.
Drive down most streets in the country and you’ll see them. Northwest Arkansas is no exception. Some are so catchy you’ll see them more than once within a block or two. Others are unique and justifiably so. A few are famous enough to graduate to newspaper ads and billboards. More times than not, they are simply laughed at, particularly on the internet. One in a thousand may cause someone to think. The other nine hundred and ninety-nine are nothing more than head-shakers. Some are anonymous. Most should be. A few come signed, but I think God would testify that they’re forgeries.
Legacy, like so many other churches today, currently meets in a rented facility (The Boys and Girls Club of Bentonville). We’ve been praying about our next location for months/years now. The questions we’re seeking to answer are, “Should we always lease or should we buy?” “Should we ever build?” “If so, what should our building look like?” While we’ve been discussing these questions, a few things came to my mind.
Reading the paper about three years ago, I was struck by a comment made by a fellow pastor. It was a comment that made me ask a few tough questions about churches in our area, in particular, the one I’m blessed to serve as Teaching-Pastor as we began our journey together. His comment was in regards to a portion of their new facility that was being constructed. The pastor said, and I’m paraphrasing, “We want our facility and the objects on our campus to serve as a point of reference and a testimony of what God is doing in our area.” Now, I understand the idea of “point of reference”. The entire campus will definitely provide an obvious “We’re Here!” marker. What caused me to be a little introspective was the idea of the facility being a “testimony” because I’m not quite sure it is testifying to what God is doing in his area, and this is why.